Friendship

The making of The Help has a backstory about two friends who helped each other break into two competitive fields: publishing and filmmaking.

Director and screenwriter Tate Taylor and author Kathryn Stockett were childhood friends in the 1970s. They grew up together in Mississippi. Their friendship lasted into adulthood when they collaborated on a book and movie about social standing in the 1960s South – The Help.

Friend Helping a Friend

Stockett took five years to write the novel and over 60 rejections from literary agents. Then, she approached Taylor with her dilemma of not getting published. Being a close friend, Taylor was sympathetic and decided to read her manuscript. He was “blown away” and emotionally moved by the story’s truth because he grew up in the same southern culture as Stockett.

Taylor supported Stockett, saying that her manuscript was fantastic and that she shouldn’t give up. He promised he’d make it into a movie if it didn’t get published.

Black Versus White America

The story concerns unlikely women coming together to make a change in Mississippi in 1963. One woman is a writer researching Black women raising children in White households. The black woman and the writer become friends as they try to change the terrible conditions of black women working for white families in Mississippi.

Taylor and Stockett were both raised by single mothers who worked full-time. Like the women in the story, they needed help raising their children. Taylor and Stockett called these women who helped them grow into adulthood “co-mothers.”

Great Interview

“I didn’t think so, honey. Every day you’re not dead in the ground, when you wake up in the morning, you’re gonna have to make some decisions. Got to ask yourself this question: ‘Am I gonna believe all them bad things them fools say about me today?’ You hear me? ‘Am I gonna believe all them bad things them fools say about me today?’ You hear me today? All right? As for your mama, she didn’t pick her life. It picked her. But you, you’re gonna do something big with yours. You wait and see.”— Constantine Jefferson in the movie.

Promise Pays Off

So, Stockett’s career took off with her bestseller, and Taylor wrote the adaptation for the silver screen and directed it with a great cast.

The Help was published and became an ultimate bestseller. But Taylor remembered the story because of its authenticity. It continued to resonate with him from the moment he opened the book. He thought the story reflected his childhood friendship with Stockett, even though their lives differed from those of the characters.

Their story offers a solution for those who want to break into writing or filmmaking, reminding them of their childhood friends as sources of inspiration or help. Either way, collaborating on a project with a childhood friend is a rewarding way to keep the friendship growing and lasting forever.

Having friends who help you is meaningful and gives value to life. The story of Stockett and Taylor assisting each other and working their way to success in their chosen careers tells us who they are as individuals.

Strange Friendships

Tate Taylor continues writing and directing. He directed the movie MA, which starred Juliette Lewis, Octavia Spencer, and Luke Evans. Taylor and Blumhouse produced the film. It is a psychological horror-thriller about a lonely woman who becomes friends with a group of teenagers and allows them to party at her house.

The teenagers think they’ve got it made, partying like adults. The woman begins acting strangely in a horrific way, and it turns out she is not as friendly as they thought. Octavia and Tate were roommates before their careers flourished.

Roommates

In a couple of interviews with MA producers, they reveal that Taylor is one of the kindest directors and makes friends with everyone. Taylor and Spencer were roommates for seven years. It turns out they are the best of friends. Because they were roommates and friends, he knew Spencer would want to play Ma’s role because she loves true crime stories.

Again, friendship in the film business helps build careers. Keep that in mind as you develop your film career—create relationships.